Here’s your 9th Weekly Chi-Lift!…
As a child, if I did something that my parents did not want me to do, they would say, “You better have a good reason” for doing what I did.
It is likely that your parents said the same thing.
How do I know?
Because the vast majority of us grew up with the same training — if we just had a good enough reason, or justify well enough why we did something…we could get out of doing something we didn’t want to do…and/or avoid punishment.
We were taught that there had to be a ‘good reason.’
For those us who received that training, we were actually conditioned to equate ‘reasons’ with ‘punishment’ or the avoidance of ‘punishment’.
Either way, punishment is still associated with ‘reasons.’
And, it is that association that creates an energy drain when w e think about be-ing ‘reasonable.’
When my clients first begin their private coaching sessions with me, their conversations are filled with ‘reasons’ and ‘excuses’ why or why not they chose to do or not do something they thought was expected of them — either by me or someone else in their life.
They often have a loooooong list of reasons and excuses to justify their choice. In the telling of these reasons, I can feel their energy being drained. It’s as if they are buried under the weight of their reasons and excuses in a desperate attempt to avoid either being punished or feeling as if they have disappointed or let someone else down by their actions.
This is when I share with them the ‘Chi-Lifting Energy Surge’ I am sharing this week –stop be-ing ‘reasonable’ and practice be-ing Personal Accoutability -#11!
The practice of Personal Accountability begins with focusing on our B-All–the ultimate goal we have chosen to accomplish during our lifetime.
Once we have chosen a B-All, the next step is to choose to be Personally Accountable for the fulfillment of that B-All. In other words, we choose to be able to count on ourself to respond to others’ requests by choosing the option that will move us closer to the fulfillment of our goal.
I call this ‘keeping our eye on our B-All‘.
With our eye always focused on our B-All, we can easily determine if the actions we choose to take are moving us closer or further away from achieving our goal.
One aspect of my B-All is to be a licensed Doctor of Natural Medicine. In other words, I have chosen to count on myself to be a licensed Doctor of Natural Medicine and I continually choose to take actions that move me closer towards that goal.
When others — my husband, family, friends, clients, etc. — make requests of me, I evaluate and determine whether to accept their requests based upon whether or not accepting their requests will move me closer or take me further away from the aCHIevement of my B-All.
I also pro-actively engage the people in my life to be my Personal Accountability Partners — to be supportive of me as I fulfill my B-All.
From this perspective, I am able to respond easily with ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to their requests.
I no longer have any ‘reason’ to make ‘excuses’ to them. I respond in the way I do by be-ing Personally Accountable to myself.
I can answer simply — ‘yes’ or ‘no’.
We give reasons to avoid an unpleasant outcome.
We take Personal Accountability to ensure the most positive outcome — the fulfillment of our B-All!
HOW TO PLAY WITH THIS CHI-LIFT THIS WEEK…
1. Read Chapter 11 of ‘Chi-To-Be! Achieving Your Ultimate B-All‘ or Listen to the ‘Chi-To-Be! Basic Series CDs’ for more Energy Surges and tips related to this Chi-Lift.
2. Post your your experience of playing with this Weekly Chi-Lift on the Chi-To-Be! Facebook group or the Chi-To-Be! LinkedIN group as a self-empowering declaration and an inspiration to us all. The links to these groups are provided to the right.
3. Utilize the Chi-To-Be! AChievement Guide as a guided mentoring tool in identifying what you want and intend to have towards the aCHIevement of your goals and B-All!
In addition to these Weekly Chi-Lifts, I encourage you to participate in the Chi-To-Be! conversation groups on Facebook and LinkedIN. Share the discoveries you experience as you implement these ‘intentional activities’ to empower yourself and to provide inspirations to your fellow chi-lifters.
The links to both of these groups are located to the right on this page.
Thank you, again, for requesting to receive these Weekly Chi-Lifts. The burst of power will be released to you as you implement these ‘intentional activities’.
BE Empowered — BE Powerful — Take Life By Your B-All!
Copyright 2010 Stacey Hall and Chi-To-Be!, LLC
Stacey Hall, L.S.H., C.A.C., C.R.P., C.N.T.C
Whole-Life Success Expert
Chi-To-Be! Author, Creator, Catalyst