“Trying harder by itself might just make you a bitter, burned out business leader.”
— Dan Waldschmidt
“There is a real possibility that I AM experimenting and playing to be more successful.”
Have you ever noticed how often you use the word ‘try’ each and every day? Most people use it over and over again without ever realizing it.
For example, this morning, I received a message from someone saying that they are ‘trying’ hard to take an action towards their B-All.
Why is it important to become aware of how often we use the word ‘try’?
Because it is one of the most chi-draining words we can use!
As a wise person informed me years ago, the very definition of the word ‘try’ is ‘looking good while failing.’ In other words, when we think or speak the word ‘try’, we are actually telling ourselves we expect to fail…instead of expecting to be successful.
Those asking us to ‘try’ did not really expect us to be successful. They just wanted us to take an action toward the goal…and if, we did, they would be pleased.
Conversely, if we did not at least ‘try’ we would be punished or they would be disappointed. ‘Trying’ then became associated with doing something for others … rather than for ourselves.
Was this true in your life?
If so, then you are like me…you might feel a sense of dread, fear and/or concern whenever you begin a new project or experience anything for the first time.
For most of my life, I would freeze when given a new assignment at work or when presented with a new opportunity. It took me a long time to realize that my underlying fear was that I would not accomplish the project to the satisfaction of others.
It wasn’t until I heard Zig Ziglar say, ‘Anything worth doing, is worth doing … poorly … the first time!’
As I explain in Chapter 1 of ‘Chi-To-Be! Achieving Your Ultimate B-All,‘
this statement changed my life.
It was the moment that I began giving myself permission to stop ‘trying’ and start ‘experimenting,’ ‘playing,’ ‘solving,’ ‘discovering,’ and ‘sampling’ new experiences…for and with me!
From those chi-lifting energies, I began accomplishing much more in a shorter amount of time with much more joy!!
And, this is why Chi-To-Be! Energy Surge #2 is ‘Do It Your Way…Any Way You Can!’
If you are ready to stop ‘trying’ and start accomplishing and achieving with more joy, I invite you to create a game to catch yourself each time you use the word ‘try’ and replace it with a word that lifts your chi higher — such as ‘experimenting,’ ‘sampling,’ ‘discovering,’ or ‘playing.’ And, invite you to post your experience of playing with this Chi-Lift of Possibility on the Chi-To-Be! Facebook group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ChiToBe)
Thanks for taking a moment now to share in the comment box below with what you will do instead of ‘trying’ today?
Stacey Hall, L.S.H., C.N.T.C., C.A.C, C.R.T.S.
Success Coach, Speaker, Best-Selling Author
CEO, Chi-To-Be!, LLC