“The only time people dislike gossip is when you gossip about them.”
— Will Rogers
Most of us were raised with the warning that “no one likes a gossip.” And, most people will tell you that they do not like people who gossip.
And, yet if that was true, how is it possible that celebrity “news” shows like TMZ and Entertainment Tonight and reality shows like the ‘Housewives,’ ‘The Bachelor,’ ‘Big Brother,’ and so many others continue to become more and more popular when all they offer are generous helpings of gossip and speculation both within the show and via social media conversations about the people featured in those shows?
Gossip has become so prevalent that most people do not even know when they are either sharing or listening to gossip.
The definition of gossip is “casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.”
Notice that the definition does not specify whether the conversation is negative or positive about other people – any conversation or report about other people involving details that are not confirmed as true (i.e. speculation or judgment) – is gossip.
And, gossip lowers the energy of the person sharing it and the person hearing it. Which is why chi-lifters choose to refrain from gossip.
Here are two simple guidelines that support us in staying away from gossip and being impeccable with our word…
1. When we speak with other people, let’s share only about our own experiences and our own feelings about those experiences.
2. If we feel badly about an interaction we have had with another person and we want to speak about it to someone else, let’s not state the name of the person(s) with whom we had the interaction and who are not participating in the conversation. And, follow guideline #1 to avoid speculating and judging the person.
In other words, if I feel that I was spoken to by another person in a way that felt disrespectful to me, if I share about the experience later with a friend, I will…
— Not share the name of the person who I felt was disrespectful to me.
— Consider why I feel it is necessary for me to share the experience with another person and make sure it is not just because I want to complain about the person.
— Share with my friend how the experience made me feel and ask for support in using Chi-To-Be! Energy Surge #5 to remember not to make assumptions and not to take things personally in order to raise and regenerate my energy.
And, I will complete the experience by privately sending blessings to the person with whom I had the experience for providing me with an opportunity to practice Chi-To-Be! Energy Surge #5.
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Stacey Hall, L.S.H., C.N.T.C., C.A.C, C.R.T.S.
Success Coach, Speaker, Best-Selling Author
CEO, Chi-To-Be!, LLC